Doctorate student Lindsay Jordan recalls having her boyfriend and best friend pose as her parents during her first graduation, with her friend even dressing up as Jackie Onassis. Although it was amusing, Jordan admits that she wished her real parents were there. However, Jordan’s parents did not attend any of her previous graduation ceremonies, both for her undergraduate and master’s degrees, claiming that they dislike formal occasions and travelling. While graduations serve as a chance for parents to celebrate their child’s accomplishments, the ceremonies can also be a cause of stress and arguments. Below are tips on how to ensure a happy graduation day for you and your child.
Practical Matters
If the ceremony is early, it is best to book accommodations beforehand, particularly in smaller towns. One must also check parking arrangements when travelling by car. Guests usually pay around £25 each depending on the university. Parents must confirm the number of guests allowed per student. If your student child has studied abroad, it is important to apply for a visitor visa, which can be done through the Home Office website. Students must cover additional costs like gown rental and guest ceremony attendance. One can opt to help financially if the student is cash-strapped due to the post-university transition.
The Ceremony
Both students and guests are expected to dress formally. It is worthwhile to check the weather before donning a full woollen suit during the summer. The ceremony can take place either on-campus or at an event space nearby. It is best to arrive about an hour or more early, so your child can collect their robe and mortarboard without hastening. The ceremony might be long and tedious, with hours spent on reading the list of names. However, the moment your child steps onto the stage is worth it. Shout, whoop, whistle, and cheer when your child receives their degree certificate. Celebrate this momentous occasion while booking a place for lunch or dinner ahead of your graduation day.
Behaviour
Remember to enjoy this day with your family. Take plenty of pictures and cherish the moment. Graduation day also provides an opportunity for graduates to thank their parents for their support, which is often overlooked. Avoid having a hangover on the day of the ceremony, like Hugh Thomas’s parents, who went out drinking the night before. Thomas admits that he is grateful for the three years of bankrolled London lifestyle. Serious occasions do not always require serious photos, so capture some lighthearted moments that you will always cherish. Follow Guardian Students (@GdnStudents) on Twitter, become a member, and receive our weekly newsletter and exclusive benefits.